Assalamualaikum :)
Lately banyak benda yang berlaku. Semua orang akan rasa benda yang sama. Akan rasa macam mana kena kutuk belakang, kena mengumpat, kena tikam belakang, kena fitnah. So on. Tapi macam mana cara nak handle, itu terpulang.
Sebelum ni aku jenis melawan. For me im right, ur wrong, im smart enough and ur stupid. MasyaAllah. Sombong nya. Dah perangai macam ni pun masih mampu nak pijak Bumi Allah. Tak malu.
Kalau dulu rasa nak lawan, tapi sekarang aku pilih untuk diam. Betul la kata kawan, kalau dia loser, aku pun loser, kalau dia gampang, aku pun gampang. Sapa suruh layan. Layan orang bodoh, tak ke terlekat badi bodoh sama. Aku cari motivasi. Alhamdulillah, orang-orang yang dekat dengan aku semuanya jenis ingat tuhan. Bila bercakap, ingat tuhan, bila buat perkerjaan, ingat tuhan. Kita manusia bertuhan. Kiri kanan ada malaikat. Mereka catat. Di padang masyar nanti kita dihakimi, diadili. Kita tak nak kerja kita bertambah. Malu nak jawab depan Allah.
Sebaik-baik tempat mengadu adalah Allah. Tapi manusia ni tak kuat. Sebab itu Allah berikan penjaga. Sebaik-baik penjaga adalah ibu bapa. Aku bersyukur ada mama abah yang memahami, kenal anak-anak, tau agama. Apa-apa jenis nasihat sekalipun, mama abah mesti selitkan agama. Memang manusia buat jahat. Tapi hukuman manusia ikut peringkat. Niat saja tapi tak buat, buat tapi tak berniat, niat dan buat. 3 benda berbeza. Dalam badan ada syaitan. Macam mana nak kawal syaitan tu, itu berbalik pada iman. Syukur la, selama ni niat ja nak buat jahat, tapi masih tak buat-buat.
Bila teringat balik, mesti malu dengan Allah. Jadi pilih untuk mengalah. Bukan sebab salah, tapi untuk kebaikan dua-dua pihak. Macam Tira, Aimi and Sulo kata, mengalah bukan erti kalah, tapi erti kita kuat. Kita serah pada Allah untuk menilai, untuk menghukum. Kalau kita sibuk solat tiap hari, mintak ampun dari Allah, tapi diri sendiri tak boleh ampunkan makhluk lain, malu. Kita manusia bertuhan. Jangan fikir untuk diri sendiri.
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Aku terbaca blog kakak Fatin Suhana.
How can we learn to mend our scars and continue being good to people, even when they are not good to us?
"Those who show no mercy to others will have no mercy shown to them by Allah" [Muslim]
Forgiveness. who are we compared to Allah. if we are keen to seek for Allah forgiveness, how can we not forgive others?
Astarafirullah.
to all readers, let us forgive each other and stop backbiting each other.
"Major Sins are indeed the cause for all misery, evil and torment in this world and the hereafter."
and among the destructive major sins are backbiting and slandering. they can decrease in good deeds and increase in evil ones and lead to dishonor and ignominy. how bad is that :(
Allah forbids these acts, He says in Qur'an :
"backbiting and gossiping are from the most vilest and despicable of things, yet the most widely spread among mankind, such that no one is free from it except for a few people."
Backbiting (gheebah) means mentioning something about a person (in his absence), that he hates, whether it is about his body, religious, characteristics, his worldly affairs, his self, his physical appearance, his wealth, his family.. etc.
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It could also means gheebah when you make fun of how someone looks, mentioning any bad quality in him. such as,"pendeknya lah dia ni", "kurusnya dia.. macam papan". also in religious qualities, "dia tu banyak dosa tu", " orang tu dahlah tak bayar zakat, sembahyang pun tak.."
Sejujurnya, tak perlulah kita fitnah orang lain demi kepuasan sendiri. atau mengutuk/ mengumpat orang lain kerana kebiasaan kita begitu. seeking flaws in every people you see.
Abu Hurayrah (May Allah be pleased with him) narrated that Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:
"Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of Allah said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him."
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I really want to tell that someone that i don't really like something about her. then what can i do?
There are a lot of things that we can do apart from kutuk-mengutuk/ fitnah/ perli depan/ anonymous harsh words comments/ harsh e-mails.. etc. have you ever heard about giving advise? if you don't, then this is the right way to tell someone about things you don't like about him/her. there a lot of ways on giving advise. some people love to do it in formal way, some may not. you can just hangout and after lunch, you have some small talks about life.. and that's the moment when you talk and express how you love him/her as a friend and didn't want them to take the wrong path, for example.
I still remember when i was still freehair,my schoolmate saw me at town. i was in my high school and took arabic language, so you know how the environment may see me. sigh. but what i love about my dear friends is that, a day after they saw me at town, they gather around and have a talk about sins. the way they talked were very polite and i know.. Allah loves me that He gave a bunch of good friends that i should follow. they did not use any harsh words, they even smiled and give a lot of motivation to makes me feel they're with me. and yes, after that i started to wear my hijab permanently :) so you see, giving advise is never an old school way.
but i already give advise. n he didn't took my advise. so that's why i just give him harsh words.biar dia rasa.
to me, a lot of good advise will never harm anyone. and by giving harsh words, do u think the person will take your advise? take the good way to educate and advise people, and pray that the person will change. semoga Allah bukakan hati mereka. if you still don't believe this, it seems that you don't believe that Allah is the ONLY one who opens someones hearts. it will never be you. it will never be me. we are only the channel to it, but forever, it is in Allah's will.
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Dan bila tanya kenapa hubby tak nak involve, hubby kata "hubby dah suruh sayang jangan layan. Sabar banyak-banyak. Ingat tuhan". Bila kita panas, kita mesti kena ada penyejuk. Bila buat jahat, kita bukan perlukan pengikut, tapi perlukan penarik yang boleh tarik kita ke landasan betul.
Bab cari salah orang, semuanya jumpa. Tapi bila cari salah sendiri, ramai manusia yang ego. Kalau jumpa salah sendiri, mesti akan buat-buat takda, atau nasihatkan diri sendiri "ur always right". Tapi sedar tak sedar, sebenarnya tu semua kerja syaitan. Dia bisikkan kat hati, kita terima ja.
Bila terima sesuatu rezeki, jangan kufur.
Kalau diberi rezeki anak, aku nak dia baca ni. Jangan kufur. Ada sebab kenapa Allah wujudkan zakat dalam rukun islam. Harta bukan untuk makan sendiri, tapi untuk dikongsi melalui orang yang mampu. Kenapa Allah wujudkan puasa dalam rukun islam. Untuk ingat orang yang tak mampu. Biar kita tau apa rasanya lapar dahaga. Ni semua Allah sentuh bab harta. Tapi aku berlagak. Malunya dengan Allah.
Jadi biarlah apa orang nak kata. Kita jaga diri dengan Allah sudah. Mama kata, kalau kita tak mampu ubah orang, kita ubah diri sendiri. Mesti ada silapnya. Hidayah bukan manusia yang bagi, tapi Allah yang beri. Semoga kita semua berubah. InsyaAllah.
AkuKata : mama kata "manusia berubah bila dicela, tapi sabar boleh jinakkan semuanya. Anak dididik baik-baik, tapi bila dia berubah, mesti ada silap kat mana-mana."
